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How to Nurture Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is defined as confidence in one’s own abilities. You can tell the importance of this, especially in young children, as it sets the tone of their personality.​​​​


It will somehow determine how successful a child will be when he or she grows up. If children do not believe in themselves, they will constantly be doubting their every move, and that will obviously hinder their journey towards success. On the other hand, if they have the right amount of self-esteem, they will be able to achieve their goals easily and work their way to a successful life without much trouble. Be careful though, as too much self-esteem in anybody is never good.

Here are some tips on how to ensure the proper development of self-esteem in your children: martial arts gold coast self-esteem

Teach positive self-statements. Teach children how to focus on the positive instead of dwelling on the negative. When you hear or feel that they are struggling because they think that they are not good enough for some reason, empathise then quickly help them reassess the situation by pointing out something positive. Let them know that there is always something good in even the worst moments.

Be generous with praise. Acknowledge all their efforts, be it big or small. The important thing is that they are trying. Let them know you appreciate their many talents and are grateful whenever they exhibit good manners, do their chores on their own or extend a helping hand. Whenever there is a chance to praise children, go for it. Praises like “That was very nice of you to let the little girl go before you on the slide” or “Your kicks are getting so much better, all that practice is surely paying off” may sound simple, but they will go a long way.

Avoid criticism that takes the form of ridicule or shame. This is challenging to overcome because it is easier to find fault than to praise, as we all know too well. Remember the old saying, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me”? You will agree that there are no truer words than that, so be very careful. Make sure that any criticism from you must be constructive and always follow it up with something positive. kids martial arts gold coast

Show your child that you can laugh at yourself. Life is hard, and while we have to teach children how to be tough, we must also make it a point to teach them that sometimes it’s okay to fall down or stumble. It’s okay to laugh at their mistakes and then shrug it off after they have learned from it, there is no need to be serious all the time. “Oh, how silly of me! How could I have forgotten that?” kids karate gold coast

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Show your child that you can laugh at yourself. Life is hard, and while we have to teach children how to be tough, we must also make it a point to teach them that sometimes it’s okay to fall down or stumble. It’s okay to laugh at their mistakes and then shrug it off after they have learned from it, there is no need to be serious all the time. “Oh, how silly of me! How could I have forgotten that?” martial arts for kids gold coast

Teach children about decision making and to recognise when they have made good decisions. They will almost always ask for your help, and if you do so all the time, they will become dependent on you. Learn how to help them by teaching them how to handle problems by assessing the situation and thinking of different ways that can solve their problems. What will each of the solutions do? Which is the best one? Once they do so, they will be able to solve problems on their own and feel very good about themselves. “Great job! I knew you would be able to figure it out on your own! I am so proud of you!”

Do not compare your child with others. One of the biggest mistakes parents do, unconsciously, is comparing their children to their friends’ or with each other. It is a guaranteed no fail way to kill one’s self-esteem, especially in children. This makes them believe that they are no good and that they will never be able to meet your expectations. This may also result into the child shying away from any situation that might put him or her against others. Even worse, the child might start distancing himself or herself from you as well. Kids karate training gold coast


Help your child strive for improvement instead of perfection. Help them to set reasonable expectations for their performances. Know what they are capable of and set appropriate expectations. Remind them that what is important is that they try their best and they do better than the last test or the last competition, a perfect score or winning will just be a nice bonus.

Provide unconditional support and love. If your children did not do well in an exam or competition, do not make them feel that they disappointed you. Appreciate their efforts and encourage them to study or practice more so that they can do better next time. Let them know that no matter what, they are loved. Phrases like “That was a great effort, thank you for trying your best!” or “I know that you studied hard for this test, how can I help you do better next time?” can provide encouragement and lift their spirits.

Do everything you can to ensure your children believe in themselves! Their future success and happiness in life depends on this quality almost more than anything.

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